Let’s de-stress


Recently, a friend asked for tips on how to de-stress.  From time to time, we all face tough situations that cause stress.  How do you de-stress yourself?  Please post your comments. Thank you!

Ann Marie Bryan

CEO & Founder of Victorious By Design

Author of Unforgettable, My Love Has Come Along




Reaching for the Horizon


Corridor after corridor, I seem to be haunted by the sound of death.

Pounding after pounding, my heart seems to give way.

Everyday, my strength is knocked from underneath me.

I have no respite; no one to turn to, and nowhere to go….

Whose door should I knock on, and who would care to help.

I have no way of describing my pain.

The words that come from my mouth would only be as convincing as the owner.

I am in no way compelling.

People seem to cringe at the sight of me.

But see my eyes…they tell a story greater than all.

They tell a story of pain, hurt, and anger.

But who will listen to me?

Who will heed my silent cries?

Who will hear my desperate pleas?

Look what this violence has done to me!

See what I have become.

I am a broken hearted being – I am a lost soul.

Is there no other like me, who can supply all my needs?

Is there none who can show me the horizon, the light out of this darkness?

Who will stop this madness, this hostility?

I searched and searched for a hero;

A hero who would come right on time.

I hoped only that, that hero would come quickly.

But I need not worry.

For you see, I have found the horizon.

Yes I found it, and I did not find it on my own.

I am only one of the heroes that this world needs.

There are so many, that hide under the blanket of life, suffocating themselves and the world into oblivion.

I am a hero, and so are you; we sought the horizon, and it did not hide from us, but revealed itself willingly.

It started with every one of us; each of us led the mislaid to the Horizon we had found.

We have not kept it to ourselves.

For in this horizon, we have found hope, and this hope we share with all whose faith is yet unborn.



Violence is the cause all unrighteousness. It is the Father of hopelessness, anger and pain. It is the mother of hurt, hate and despondency. Spread the love of a violence free life.

Shauna-Kay Harrison, VBD Contributor


Tips for a God-centered Marriage

Many marriages are failing because they are not God-centered or thy have strayed from God.  The basic tenets of marriage are simple but profound and any abrogation of these tenets, will lead to dire consequences.  In the book of Malachi, God told his people Israel who through sinful living had strayed from Him, “return to me and I will return to you.”

Here are some basic tips to keep a God-centered marriage: 

  1. Put God first in your lives (St. Matthew 6:33).  Read the bible often.  As you read it, you allow your soul, mind and body to be cleansed from the distractions and worldly temptations.
  2. Remember your vows to each other – to love, cherish and honor each other.
  3. Keep no secrets from each other; remember the admonition from the word-“And the twain shall become one flesh” (St. Mark 10:8).  Keeping secrets fosters distrust.
  4. Replace the pronouns I, my, mine and yours with ours, and we.  Simplistic you might say, but very important.  Marriage should cause a blurring and eventually an obliteration of the seam that is between a husband and a wife.  It does not happen overnight but is a gradual process.
  5. Never be too busy or tired for each other.  Napping together or falling asleep together on the couch in front of the television after a hard day’s work builds a strong bond between couples.
  6. Talk openly and frequently about finance.  This area, far more than infidelity, has been the cause of many break ups in marriages.  Remember, no secrets.  Your future depends on the financial plans you make from the measure that God has given you.  Your vision for the future must be the same.
  7. Do not compare your wife or husband to some other person.  Your husband is what you make him-your wife is what you make her.  Focus on what you both can achieve.
  8. Remember a house divided cannot stand.  God does not listen to the prayers of a divided house.  Let your prayers for success be for the home and not just for you.
  9. Always treat each other as if each is the best thing that happened to the other, because it is.

Do these things for the good health of your marriage.  How can you love God whom you have not seen and yet hate your fellow man?  A true test of your relationship with God is the health of your relationship with your spouse.

May the Lord bless your home.

Malachi, VBD Contributor